Episode 50: Nicole is Back!; How to Kick Booty in 2018

Brilliant Moment of the Week (5/5) Fiona (formerly known as Baby E) made her grand entrance into the world DURING the solar eclipse. To honor that, Nicole gave her the middle name Soleil, which means “sun” in French. Inspired Action Take the time to honor and celebrate each and every moment, big and small.

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Major Topic: New Year’s Resolutions Angela and Nicole challenge the unrealistic expectations and fears that often go with resolutions. Angela provides two new approaches to New Years goal-setting: the Un-Resolution, and Choose One Word.

Try This: Create an Un-Resolution and One Word for 2018 – write each of them down and display them. Listen to the episode and check out the article below for tips on how to make your goals even SMART-er ;). Share them with us at angela@angelawagnercoaching.com.  

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Nicole SHOUT out to all the Labor & Delivery Nurses on the planet for helping people through terrifying experiences every day. You are an inspired and selfless group of people.

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Plans Shmans

Luke’s Lessons
“Plans Shmans”

Angela Luke first meeting
The very moment I met my sweet baby boy.

A few months into my pregnancy, I started to envision the delivery day.  I researched, asked friends about their experiences, and went to a lot of childbirth classes.  The birthing class leaders told us to write a birth plan, which included anything from who you wanted in the room to what type of music, scents, and medication you did or didn’t want during the delivery.  I had a pretty clear picture of Luke’s birth. It would be incredibly painful, I knew, because I wanted a natural birth (or “normal birth” as they called it in our childbirth classes). I, under no circumstances, was going to have a “non-normal” Cesarean birth.  I would use the hippie dippie tub to ease my pain.  I would have lavender scent throughout the room. John would use yoga assists to help me calm down and we would ujjayi breath together. My favorite Jason Mraz song “Living in the Moment” would be playing in the background. It would be the way nature intended it.  And I would wear my momma badge proudly.

As I was planning this experience, Luke was on a different path. He decided to get cozy in the breech position which means his little head was up instead of down. He stayed this way, week after week.  I looked into ways to “turn” him (including practicing headstands) but nothing seemed to work. With my amniotic fluid going down coupled with the fact that I am a first time mom, the odds were not in my favor for him to do a half somersault and cooperate with me. Doctors no longer deliver breech babies the “normal” way.  They deliver breech babies by Cesarean section.   My birth plan was toast. This kid was coming out surgically.

I was pretty bummed about this realization but decided to accept what is and plan for a new kind of “perfect” delivery.  I asked my doctor if I could play my music during the birth.  It was pretty much the only thing I could add to the experience since we were in a sterile operating room.  No tubs, birthing balls, or yummy scents allowed.

There is so much I can share about the birth, and I will in other posts and in my classes, but for today, my biggest lesson to share is this: have a plan but be open, able, and willing to change it at any moment because when you least expect it, the Universe (or your little unborn baby) will decide something different for you.

As Luke entered the world, “Living in the Moment” was playing.  John was holding my hand.  The tech took photos with our “good” camera (although I am not sure I wanted to see everything she captured!).  Tears filled my eyes.  Our little man was here.  I was a mom (I earned my badge)! John was a dad.  Suddenly the delivery method made zero difference to either of us.  We were in awe. We were in love.  We experienced true magic.

And what is “normal” anyway?

 “Normal”? I didn’t have a “normal” experience with either of my babies…My first was in the hospital for two extra days due to contaminated bloodwork, and my second was in the NICU because he had a hole in his tiny lung. Now, they are both happy and healthy…and the only thing I care about is the fact that I can snuggle their cute little faces any time I want! 🙂
 Exactly! Normal is such a silly way to put it. I too was surprised by my C-section– people kept saying “you’re in such good space; you won’t have any issues.” We really just never know what our bodies will do! For my second, I tried for a VBAC. My water broke, got to 5cm… then they saw he was breech. Healthy kids are all that matter!