Episode 15: On Time

#champagneproblems #stillstressful

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Sucky Moment of the Week (4/5) Angela’s kitchen remodel has come with one unanticipated setback after another. Inspired Action It’s ok to get stressed out when life gets you down, but always keep perspective and recognize when you’re dealing with a #champagneproblem.

Major Topic: Time It’s the one thing we literally always have yet somehow never seem to have enough of. The ladies discuss how to get clear on our use of time, how to feel like we have more of it, and the idea that, when you say yes to something, you are always saying no to something else.

Try This Part 1: Write down how you spend every minute of your time for at least one day to get a clear picture of how you are prioritizing your precious waking hours for real. Part 2: Be five minutes early to everything.

Nicole and her pups can teach you about sleeping in the car; they’re experts.

Nicole SHOUT out To all the fur babies in the world! But especially to Nicole’s adventure buddies, Shiner and Phoenix, who were the best troopers on their family road trip. Go kiss your fur babies on the mouth and tell them how much you love them!

Ask Coach AWags Dani asks how she can get in the habit of being on time.

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  • On the Blog: POST
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One last fur baby pic for the road.

Where the Time Went

I can’t believe it’s already almost April! Said most of us at some point in the last week. Like… Actually, I would bet money that anyone reading this has either uttered or heard that sentence in the past seven days. Comment if I’m wrong.

Wait how can it be that time already?!

Okay, now I’m just being competitive with myself for no reason but seriously who among us doesn’t wonder where the heck the time goes in a day? Or a week or a month or a YEAR! for that matter? I am obsessed with efficiency and constantly trying to be conscious of and figure out how better to manage, prioritize, and make the most of the hours in my day. Life is short, and I’m too young to be struggling to remember what I did the previous day because I was “too” “busy” running around like a chicken with its head cut off and no purpose. I’ll never get better at prioritizing my time until I have a clear picture of how I spend it, unmuddied by the fog that comes with an event’s passage to short- and/or long-term memory. This chicken needs her head.

So, in the spirit of Angela’s Try This challenge in Episode 15 of the podcast, here’s a real life account of what I did today. The unrated director’s cut version, because you guys deserve to know the truth (jk the most exciting thing about this list is going to be the phrase “tax spreadsheet”).

  • 7:30 – 8:10 AM Wake up kind of but not really
  • 8:10 – 8:40 Laid in bed
  • 8:40 – 9:00 Emerge from safety and comfort of bed, Brush teeth and do morning things that you do, Make the bed, Get dressed
  • 9:00 – 9:05 Make/Pour self cup of coffee
  • 9:05 – 9:40 Do my makeup for headshot photo shoot
  • 9:40 – 10:02 Make/Eat oatmeal, Clean up from breakfast, look through a binder of film negatives
  • 10:03 – 10:12 Talk to Cam about his new candle-making venture
  • 10:12 – 10:22 Change clothes, realistically probably Looking in the mirror a bunch cause let’s just be honest people
  • 10:22 – 10:30 Scroll through Instagram
  • 10:30 – 11:49 Photo shoot with Cam
  • 11:50 – 12:30 PM Hang with Cam while he works, Look through some of the photos from our shoot
  • 12:30 – 12:34 Say bye to Cam
  • 12:34 – 12:46 Drive to Whole Foods
  • 12:46 – 1:05 Grab lunch, Pay, Find a place to sit
  • 1:05 – 1:23 Eat lunch, Work on tax spreadsheet
  • 1:23 – 1:30 Drive to the office (aka the house where I babysit)
  • 1:30 – 1:41 Talk to the boss
  • 1:42 – 1:52 Drive to pick up the kids at school
  • 1:53 – 2:00 Wait in the carpool line
  • 2:01 – 2:04 Get both kids buckled in their carseats
  • 2:04 – 2:18 Drive back to the office
  • 2:18 – 6:00 Unpack kids’ backpacks, Do office dishes, Walk to park with kids, Play at park, Walk back home, Make snacks, Eat snack, Drive to Central Market, Get groceries, Drive back to the office, Unload groceries, Heat up dinner, Say bye to kids
  • 6:03 – 6:33 Drive to yoga class
  • 6:33 – 6:48 Park, Listen to podcast, Update/Organize podcast subscriptions/folders
  • 6:48 – 8:00 Prepare for yoga class, Teach yoga class
  • 8:00 – 8:11 Talk to old friend who randomly showed up at my yoga class (thanks, Universe!)
  • 8:11 – 8:21 Drive to apartment
  • 8:21 – 8:26 Park, Gather things, Walk up to apartment
  • 8:28 – 8:52 Make dinner, Eat dinner, Clean up from dinner
  • 8:53 – 9:10 Talk to Cam on the phone
  • 9:11 – 10:30 Write this blog post
  • 10:30 – ??? Watch GIRLS, Reunite with bed

There’s a lot I could say about this – I can no longer, after seeing hard recorded data on the subject, deny that I have a serious problem with bed attachment, for instance – but here are a few of my main takeaways from this mini time tracking experiment.

  1. Things take longer than it seems like they should. It took me four full minutes to say bye to Cam when I was leaving his house to go to lunch. I value those four minutes, and I was in no rush, but it takes thinking an extra step ahead to factor that kind of thing in when planning. Same with buckling the kids into their carseats after pickup. Important, but a legitimately significant chunk of time that my mind doesn’t really account for automatically.
  2. I literally forgot about this whole thing once I was doing things with the kids. Since I’m in a caretaker role and have to be on my toes so no one, like, burns down the house or stabs another child in the eye with a popsicle stick, my time was spent in such a reactionary mode (even in preparation for and during totally planned, normal activities), that tracking my time was nowhere near my mind. Probably a good thing. However, I want to learn how to be more conscious and less reactionary when I’m with them. This was a good learning moment.
  3. We shouldn’t throw away our time. Normally if I got somewhere as early as I did to my yoga class today, I would just scroll through social media or something, thinking “Oh, 10 minutes is nothing, I’ll just chill for a second.” The more aware you become of how you spend your time, the more attuned you’ll become to how much you can really get done in a given amount of time. I parked, listened to a podcast, and did a little organizing that I’ve been meaning to do for a long time but never prioritized. Time well spent in a parking deck.
  4. Food is maybe the most massive(ly important) time sucker of all. If you like to cook, reading that it took me only 24 minutes to cook, eat, and clean up from my dinner may make me sound like some superhuman master chef but nuh-uh, honey, when I say “cooked” I mean I made freaking delicious vegan cheese toast, stuffed it in my face, and then unplugged the toaster oven, and it STILL took me that long! Anything to do with food – buying it, cooking it, eating it, cleaning up after it – takes a long time. Eating monopolizes a large portion of our days, and, sadly, it is often the thing to suffer when we are in a rush or need to “save time.” Don’t fall for the trap. The time suckers surrounding food and eating are worth it, and my wellbeing definitely suffers when I neglect them.
  5. It adds up… but it’s okay. I almost started recording the time it took for me to record how I was spending my time, just because I knew that those 15 seconds here and there would add up to precious minutes I could use elsewhere! It’s important to know that, while every minute does count, trying to control and prepare every second of every waking hour is counterproductive. The important thing is to be aware of how you prioritize what needs to get done, and to be okay with turning off your mental planner when nothing really needs to get done right that second.

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    Sarah Mowery is the Podcast Marketing Editor for the Spark – Inspire Your Life Podcast and an avid podcast listener. Originally from Little Rock, Arkansas, Sarah enjoys writing, playing outside, going to concerts, and anything else she can list here that will make you think she’s cool. Sarah is a 200-hour registered yoga teacher and a member of the assisting team at YogaSport in Dallas.

I Made It On The View


Confession: I have been a fan of The View since the first season (PS, they are on season 20!). There is just something about Hot Topics that pumps me up, especially now that the political climate is so insane. When I saw that you could submit a video of their new line dance “The View Slide” and they may air it on TV, I thought it could be fun to create one. In January, I held my annual YogaSport Team Summit where the staff (teachers, assistants, desk staff, designers, etc.) gets together to practice yoga, set goals, discuss the year, learn about each other, and have some good old fun.  As one of our team building exercises, we learned and performed the dance.

Just a few days after I submitted the video, one of The View producers emailed me asking if we could re-record it from the front so we could be included in their next segment. Eeeeeeeekkkkkk!  About half of Team YS could make it for the re-recording, which made it onto National TV.  While it’s not a seat at the Hot Topics table, I will take it!

Inspired by the Universe

If you listened to Episode 14 of the podcast, you know that its recording did not go exactly as planned. Well we’re realists here, so we know that things don’t, and will inevitably continue to not, go exactly as planned. When we find ourselves in a situation that has unfolded beyond our control, the one thing we can still control is the way we react.

Why not surrender? It isn’t possible in every single situation, but when it is, why continue fighting? When you can’t ensure the outcome, surrender to what will be. Trust that you have done enough and are ready for what the world throws your way. We can stay in control of things up to a certain point, but when the unexpected happens, don’t fight it. Oftentimes some of the best creative decisions or snap judgments are made under pressure, when we have to throw out the script and improvise with whatever is now in front of us.

So say yes to the madness. View unforeseen circumstances as possibilities instead of obstacles. Surrender to what is and what will be. You never know what magic you might be able to stir up when you allow your time to be, simply, inspired by the universe.

 

Episode 14: Spark Short! Surrender

 

This week’s silent co-host: Roxy!

Surrender In this first ever iteration of Spark Shorts (!), Angela explores the idea of surrendering to what is during those times when it seems like things just won’t go your way.

Try This: A five-minute meditation to let go.

On the Blog: Inspired by the Universe

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Episode 13: Sarah Mowery; Extreme Unitasking

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Sucky Moment of the Week (2/5) Our Podcast Marketing Editor and guest co-host for the week, Sarah Mowery, was bummed when no one showed up for the yoga class she was supposed to teach and record, but Cameron pushed her to follow through anyway. Inspired Action Don’t be discouraged when things don’t go exactly the way you want or expect. Make the most of any situation, even if it means straying from the “ideal” path.

Major Topic: Extreme Unitasking In a spin-off of our Episode 11 conversation about focus, Sarah introduces the idea of unitasking and how she is taking it to the extreme for 40 days.

Sarah in her closet-turned-recording-studio.

Try This Unitask for one week. Begin every task by asking yourself, “What am I doing right now?” and do only that thing until you finish or reach a stopping point. No distractions!

Sarah SHOUT out Sarah has a new level of appreciation for her parents after becoming a full-time nanny. Big shoutout to Joe and Betsey Mowery for passing down the ole parental wisdom!

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Negativity Shield

In this episode of the podcast, Angela’s secret weapon and behavioral change expert, Dr. Erik Gnagy gave some great advice about how to avoid taking on the negative energy of others. Put up a guard against these negative emotions: a negativity shield. We love this idea of empowering oneself against negativity and energies we don’t want to internalize.

It’s so easy to get bogged down in what is going on around us, especially as we are such social beings and naturally want to fit into a community. But we have to create a headspace that is our own in each scenario we encounter. The key is knowing how to do that in the moment.

So practically, what can a negativity shield be, and how can it be accessed in time of need? Breeeeeeeathe. That’s one way, at least! We have to be self aware enough to know what sorts of people and situations will trigger us into going into a negative space, but then harness that awareness into focus on how we respond to those situations. It is so empowering to know that we have control of how we respond to environments and instances that could bring negativity into our perspective. Ownership of your feelings and reactions is the ultimate negativity shield. We have the power, not negative emotions. Don’t relinquish the power.

Episode 12: Being Average; Shielding Against the Unwanted

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Sucky Moment of the Week (2/5) Nicole’s car breaks down right as she and Angela are about to go to lunch. Inspired Action Always be prepared. Stay calm and allow the solution to present itself when sucky obstacles happen, because they will happen, whether we are ready for them or not.

Handling it the yogi way: with a smile and a YogaSport sweatshirt on.

Major Topic: Be Average Our total perfectionist hosts discuss the value of not aiming to be perfect, how striving for perfection can paralyze your forward progress, and how being average allows your unique perspective and voice to shine through in any endeavor. This juicy nugget is one of many from Improv Wisdom by Patricia Ryan Madson.

Ask Coach AWags A Mystery Listener wants to know how to avoid feeding off of and taking on other people’s negative energy. Angela’s friend and behavioral change expert Erik Gnagy weighs in.

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Travel-size sample items are like Gremlins. Cute!… At first…

Try This Find all your travel-sized, hotel, or free sample toiletries and cosmetics, line them up in a row in your shower or bathroom, and use them all up (or rid your home of them in some other fashion). Expert level hack: Stop accepting and bringing home all free samples in the first place!

Nicole SHOUT out Angela’s contractor for her kitchen remodel, Dan, filled her in on the great opportunity to donate her old kitchen to Habitat for Humanity.

From the Episode:

  • On the Blog: Negativity Shield
  • The 2017 YogaSport Yoga School Teacher Training Program is beginning March 14th. Whether you want to become a yoga teacher, dive deeper into your yoga practice, or discover ways to grow personally from wherever you are in life, this program is a great starting point. Podcast listeners can save $200 on registration fees with the promo code sparkpodcast.
  • Improv Wisdom by Patricia Ryan Madson: a book so good, Nicole actually purchased it.

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Episode 11: Time, Energy, and Attention

The message on this pillow (customized by Luke) couldn’t be more necessary when you have little humans toddling around with crayons.

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Sucky Moment of the Week (5/5) Angela had way too close of a call when she had to save baby Zoe from nearly choking to death on a leaf. Inspired Action Angela realized she needs to be watching Zoe at all times, and that cleaning is just not that important.

Major Topic: Focus Want to be more efficient with the ways you use your time? We talk about the importance of wisely and intentionally using our *free* non-physical resources: Time, Energy, and Attention.

Ask Coach AWags Tracy wants help taking control of her email inbox, and boy do we have some tips!

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John’s inbox could use a good decluttering.

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Try This Treat. Yo. Self. Take yourself out on a date and do nothing but enjoy your own company.

Nicole SHOUT out Nicole throws one out to our very own host, Angela! Knowing how sick Nicole was feeling, Angela sent her home early and made her go see the doctor. We should all be so lucky to have a boss who helps us take care of ourselves.

From the Episode:

  • On the Blog: Extreme Unitasking
  • The 2017 YogaSport Yoga School Teacher Training Program is beginning March 14th. Whether you want to become a yogateacher, dive deeper into your yoga practice, or discover ways to grow personally from wherever you are in life, this program is a great starting point. Podcast listeners can save $200 on registration fees with the promo code sparkpodcast.
  • Wrangle those email subscriptions! Unroll.me is a super helpful tool to consolidate your emails.

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Extreme Unitasking

This week on the podcast, Nicole and Angela delved into the world of focus, discussing how we can best use our time, energy, and attention to be more efficient. What stood out to me in their conversation was the idea of how much of our time, energy, and attention are straight up wasted every day because of our obsession with “multitasking.” Ohhh, multitasking, you devil you. We’re sort of conditioned to think that multitasking is this skill you have to have in order to be able to get anything done. And, in a sense, that’s true. In most jobs and endeavors in life, you need to be able to balance multiple responsibilities, deadlines, tasks, etc., without making too many sacrifices in any one area. But what really ends up happening, and what we really think of as multitasking, is that we try to do multiple things at the same time. Which is impossible. By trying to focus on several things at once, we can give sufficient attention to nothing. Things take longer, energy and time are wasted, and our phones die because, let’s be real, most of our multitasking has to do with being on our phones while we are also doing literally anything else.

Precious resources, usurped by “multitasking”.

I’m not particularly religious, but I’ve always really liked the idea of Lent. It’s the 40-day period between Mardi Gras and Easter during which, typically, those who observe it will give something up as a sacrifice. Think sodas, meat, Facebook, stuff like that. But I view it as a convenient excuse to do an extreme life experiment for a set period of time. One year I gave up texting (ask me how that went). Another year I decided to try “Radical Honesty”, where I was not allowed to say anything that was untrue (harder than you might think at first). This year, I’m giving up, you guessed it! Multitasking.

I call this experiment Extreme Unitasking. For 40 days, I will take life one. thing. at. a. time.

Here are the rules:

  1. From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep, I will ask myself, “What am I doing right now?” I must have a clear answer to that question.
  2. Whatever the thing is from #1, I do it. And only it.
  3. The thing from #1 can be anything, but it must be clear and singular. If the thing is “scrolling through Instagram” that’s fine, but it can’t be “scrolling through Instagram AND sitting on the toilet,” which, let’s be honest, is what it usually is in my very glamorous life.
  4. When I want to move on to the next thing, I have to come to a clear end or stopping point. Either I finish what I’m doing, or I decide that I am taking a break from it. No mindlessly checking my phone or Facebook in the middle of writing a blog post. No randomly getting up from my desk because I suddenly realized I need to clean out my purse. I have to stop what I’m doing and consciously, intentionally, move on to the next thing.
  5. I am, while doing a thing, allowed to do other things that add ambiance to or enhance the thing in some way. For example, I can listen to familiar music while driving. I cannot, however, listen to a podcast while driving. Both of those things require too much focus to be done together in an Extreme Unitask-y way. Another example: If the thing I’m doing is standing in line, I can talk to someone who is standing in line with me. I cannot, however, talk to someone on the phone who isn’t there.
  6. If I am with someone else, their multitasking does not count against me. When I’m with a friend, the thing I’m doing will then be “hanging out with whoever,” and any multitask-y things they do are just part of the thing.
  7. Journal about how it goes.

As I write this post, I have read three news articles, scrolled through Facebook, checked my iMessages, and probably multitasked in other ways that I don’t even remember because it is such an engrained habit. I can only imagine it would have taken a third of the time to write if I had Extreme Unitasked it. I can only hope that loads of saved time, energy, and attention are what I have to look forward to at the end of this journey. Wish me luck.


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Sarah Mowery is the Podcast Marketing Editor for the Spark – Inspire Your Life Podcast and an avid podcast listener. Originally from Little Rock, Arkansas, Sarah enjoys writing, playing outside, going to concerts, and anything else she can list here that will make you think she’s cool. Sarah is a 200-hour registered yoga teacher and a member of the assisting team at YogaSport in Dallas.